His Family Life

The Seerah of the Beloved Rasool صَلَّی اللّٰہُ تَعَالٰی عَلَیْہِ وَاٰلِہٖ وَسَلَّم in relation to his domestic life is to be followed. Despite fulfilling the heavy responsibilities of propagating religion, his great conduct towards his blessed wives and blessed daughters holds the importance of being the guiding principle for the entire Ummah.

The Holy Rasool صَلَّی اللّٰہُ تَعَالٰی عَلَیْہِ وَاٰلِہٖ وَسَلَّم has stated: 'Best among you is the one who is best for his household; and I am the best for my household among you all.' (Sunan-ut-Tirmizi, vol. 5, pp. 475, Hadees 3921)

Heartening His Blessed Wives

He صَلَّی اللّٰہُ تَعَالٰی عَلَیْہِ وَاٰلِہٖ وَسَلَّم would hearten Azwaaj-e-Mutaharraat رَضِىَ اللهُ تَعَالٰی عَـنْهُنَّ. Once, in order to please Umm-ul-Mu'mineen, Sayyidatuna Khadijah رَضِیَ اللهُ تَعَالٰی عَنْهَا, he صَلَّی اللّٰہُ تَعَالٰی عَلَیْہِ وَاٰلِہٖ وَسَلَّم fed her Heavenly grapes through his miraculous grandeur. (Al-Mu'jam-ul-Awsat, vol. 4, pp. 315, Hadees 6098)

Delighting His Wives

According to the situation, he صَلَّی اللّٰہُ تَعَالٰی عَلَیْہِ وَاٰلِہٖ وَسَلَّم would also delight his blessed wives. Sayyidatuna 'Aaishah Siddiqah رَضِیَ اللهُ تَعَالٰی عَنْهَا has stated:

I was with Rasoolullah صَلَّی اللّٰہُ تَعَالٰی عَلَیْہِ وَاٰلِہٖ وَسَلَّم on a journey. We stayed at a place, so Rasoolullah صَلَّی اللّٰہُ تَعَالٰی عَلَیْہِ وَاٰلِہٖ وَسَلَّم sent the blessed Sahabah ahead and had a race with me. Since I was thin, I outstripped him. Then, after a short period of time, I was with Rasoolullah صَلَّی اللّٰہُ تَعَالٰی عَلَیْہِ وَاٰلِہٖ وَسَلَّم on another journey. We stayed at a place, so Rasoolullah صَلَّی اللّٰہُ تَعَالٰی عَلَیْہِ وَاٰلِہٖ وَسَلَّم sent the blessed Sahabah ahead and had a race with me. At that time, I had gained weight; therefore, Rasoolullah صَلَّی اللّٰہُ تَعَالٰی عَلَیْہِ وَاٰلِہٖ وَسَلَّم outstripped me. Then, while gently striking my shoulder with his blessed hand, he صَلَّی اللّٰہُ تَعَالٰی عَلَیْہِ وَاٰلِہٖ وَسَلَّم said: 'This is the pay back for that last race.' (Note: Remember that this race was in seclusion. Therefore, this Hadees cannot be taken as a proof for the races of men and women in the current era.)

Likewise, the Beloved Rasool صَلَّی اللّٰہُ تَعَالٰی عَلَیْہِ وَاٰلِہٖ وَسَلَّم would also express happiness upon seeing Ummahat-ul-Mu'mineen delighting each other, and at times, he صَلَّی اللّٰہُ تَعَالٰی عَلَیْہِ وَاٰلِہٖ وَسَلَّم himself would join them as well. As Umm-ul-Mu'mineen Sayyidatuna 'Aaishah رَضِیَ اللهُ تَعَالٰی عَنْهَا has narrated:

I prepared Khazeerah (food prepared from meat and flour) for Rasoolullah صَلَّی اللّٰہُ تَعَالٰی عَلَیْہِ وَاٰلِہٖ وَسَلَّم and served it to him. Rasoolullah صَلَّی اللّٰہُ تَعَالٰی عَلَیْہِ وَاٰلِہٖ وَسَلَّم was seated with Sayyidatuna Sawdah رَضِیَ اللهُ تَعَالٰی عَنْهَا and me. I also asked Sayyidatuna Sawdah رَضِیَ اللهُ تَعَالٰی عَنْهَا to eat; she refused. I said: 'Eat it, or else I will rub it on your face.' She again refused, so I took Khazeerah in my hand and rubbed it on her face. Rasoolullah صَلَّی اللّٰہُ تَعَالٰی عَلَیْہِ وَاٰلِہٖ وَسَلَّم started smiling; he took Khazeerah in his hand and gave it to Sayyidatuna Sawdah رَضِیَ اللهُ تَعَالٰی عَنْهَا, and said: 'Here, you also rub it on her face.' Rasoolullah صَلَّی اللّٰہُ تَعَالٰی عَلَیْہِ وَاٰلِہٖ وَسَلَّم expressed happiness at that time. (Musnad Abi Ya'la, vol. 4, pp. 88, Hadees 4459)

Teaching Religious Knowledge

The Holy Rasool صَلَّی اللّٰہُ تَعَالٰی عَلَیْہِ وَاٰلِہٖ وَسَلَّم would impart religious knowledge to Azwaaj-e-Mutaharraat. In this regard, names of Umm-ul-Mu'mineen Sayyidatuna 'Aaishah Siddiqah رَضِیَ اللهُ تَعَالٰی عَنْهَا and Umm-ul-Mu'mineen Sayyidatuna Umm-e-Salamah رَضِیَ اللهُ تَعَالٰی عَنْهَا come at the top of the list, who received invaluable pearls of knowledge from the Beloved Rasool صَلَّی اللّٰہُ تَعَالٰی عَلَیْہِ وَاٰلِہٖ وَسَلَّم. In fact, the status of Umm-ul-Mu'mineen Sayyidatuna 'Aaishah Siddiqah رَضِیَ اللهُ تَعَالٰی عَنْهَا was such that she would resolve great perplexing scholarly issues with ease. (Sunan-ut-Tirmizi, vol. 5, pp. 471, Hadees 3909)

Taking Care of the Rights of His Wives

Before his apparent demise, the Beloved Rasool صَلَّی اللّٰہُ تَعَالٰی عَلَیْہِ وَاٰلِہٖ وَسَلَّم became ill and wanted to spend the last days of his apparent life at the house of Umm-ul-Mu'mineen Sayyidatuna 'Aaishah Siddiqah رَضِیَ اللهُ تَعَالٰی عَنْهَا. Instead of clearly announcing his decision, he صَلَّی اللّٰہُ تَعَالٰی عَلَیْہِ وَاٰلِہٖ وَسَلَّم repeated the following question again and again, while keeping in view the rights of wives: 'At whose house will I be tomorrow?' The blessed wives came to know the will of Holy Rasool صَلَّی اللّٰہُ تَعَالٰی عَلَیْہِ وَاٰلِہٖ وَسَلَّم and humbly said: 'Wherever you like.' Therefore, he صَلَّی اللّٰہُ تَعَالٰی عَلَیْہِ وَاٰلِہٖ وَسَلَّم stayed at the house of Umm-ul-Mu'mineen Sayyidatuna 'Aaishah Siddiqah رَضِیَ اللهُ تَعَالٰی عَنْهَا until his apparent demise. (Sahih Bukhari, vol. 3, pp. 468, Hadees 5217)

Consulting His Wives

Similarly, he صَلَّی اللّٰہُ تَعَالٰی عَلَیْہِ وَاٰلِہٖ وَسَلَّم would encourage his wives by seeking their advice. At times, he صَلَّی اللّٰہُ تَعَالٰی عَلَیْہِ وَاٰلِہٖ وَسَلَّم even sought their advice in very critical situations. For example, he صَلَّی اللّٰہُ تَعَالٰی عَلَیْہِ وَاٰلِہٖ وَسَلَّم sought the advice of Sayyidatuna Khadijah رَضِیَ اللهُ تَعَالٰی عَنْهَا when the first Wahee (Divine revelation) was sent down (Sahih Bukhari, vol. 1, pp. 8, Hadees 3) and the advice of Sayyidatuna Umm-e-Salamah رَضِیَ اللهُ تَعَالٰی عَنْهَا at the occasion of Suleh Hudaybiyah (treaty of Hudaybiyah), and accepted their advice. (Sahih Bukhari, vol. 2, pp. 227, Hadees 2732)

Great Conduct Towards His Daughters

Similarly, he صَلَّی اللّٰہُ تَعَالٰی عَلَیْہِ وَاٰلِہٖ وَسَلَّم would treat his blessed daughters with extreme kindness and affection. He صَلَّی اللّٰہُ تَعَالٰی عَلَیْہِ وَاٰلِہٖ وَسَلَّم would become happy upon their joy and sad upon their grief. In fact, when his most beloved daughter, Sayyidatuna Fatimah رَضِیَ اللهُ تَعَالٰی عَنْهَا would come, he صَلَّی اللّٰہُ تَعَالٰی عَلَیْہِ وَاٰلِہٖ وَسَلَّم would stand up out of extreme kindness and affection. (Subul-ul-Huda War-Rishaad, vol. 11, pp. 44)